Comments on: Speaking of not censoring myself anymore…

By: Cathy

Cathy — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 18:40:39 +0000

Thanks! As disappointing as all this is, I am starting to see that it’s for the best. I needed a change… and a little more freedom, too.

Also, it’s funny that you *still* think you’re going to bore me by discussing something you already know I’m interested in

By: TheQuietLion

TheQuietLion — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 16:41:45 +0000

Yet another example of the problems with organized religion, in my opinion. But I shan’t bore you with my own feelings. I’m so sorry that this has happened… What is it that Christians are supposed to keep in mind? “Judge not lest ye be judged”, no? Sheesh….

I’m sorry, mama… Don’t worry though, you’re better than that.

By: Cathy

Cathy — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 19:13:21 +0000

“I always felt like the folks that were supposed to be the least judgemental and most accepting and caring were the ones that had a problem with the way I lived my life.” Exactly!!!

It should be a safe place to be loved unconditionally.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 21:33:34 +0000

I too stopped going to church because I was tired of being judged. As if I didn’t know that I had made mistakes in my life. I was a horrible person because I got divorced. Even more horrible because I had a baby when I wasn’t married and had no plans to marry. I always felt like the folks that were supposed to be the least judgemental and most accepting and caring were the ones that had a problem with the way I lived my life. I mean, it certainly wasn’t like I was doing something to them personally. Live and let live and all that.

By: Cathy

Cathy — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 18:33:58 +0000

Amen sister!

By: Cathy

Cathy — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 18:33:37 +0000

You’re so right – nicely said, too!

I’ve definitely decided to attend another parish, but I think this time I’m going to engage a lot less. We don’t have kids yet, and we’re still planning on moving away, so it should be easy to do. This town is so small, there’s really no such thing as a true “fresh start” here but that’s as close as I can get.

By: Cathy

Cathy — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 18:29:08 +0000

I love both of your comments It’s given me a lot to think about.

By: Cathy

Cathy — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 18:27:39 +0000

Exactly. I think that’s what I need to do…

By: susanne

susanne — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 03:33:31 +0000

… HOWEVER: aren’t you so impressed with me that i finally followed you all the way over to HERE? ;D BC I LOVE U LIKE THAT SISTA ;D can i get a big fat AMEN? hahaha

By: susanne

susanne — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 03:32:20 +0000

this is why i dont have a church either. sometimes i miss it. sometimes i feel like a bad mom for not raising my children in sunday school. but being hurt by people who are supposed to care about you unconditionally really does hurt more than.. other types of crappy situations. and after you go through something like that its also hard not to read into the situation more than is already there too, which creates even more of a separationist attitude.