I’m a *really* dirty hippie now.

Like most of the times I’ve tried to make a lifestyle change, I started off all, “Yay! This is so awesome and it’s going to be so much fun.” Then a few days later I’m all, “I’ve made a huge mistake.”

Turns out, I’m not alone – that’s how most people adjust to change. Once you get into it and really get going and see things start to happen, the doubt creeps in and chickening out looks like a swell option.

It gets worse before it gets better, and all that.

I knew going into Getting Off the Junk there would be a “transition” period, where my hair might get all freaked out and start overproducing oil. No ‘poo-ers report this transition time as being anywhere from just a few weeks and practically painless to two months of smelly, disgusting greasiness.

I’m just going to assume skin goes through a transition of sorts, too. All of a sudden my skin isn’t covered in chemicals and it can breathe. And also release toxins. Boy, is it ever.

Let’s pick up where we left off.

Day 4

On Day 4 I woke up to my hair being a tangled, dry mess and deodorant that had clearly stopped working sometime during the night. As I mentioned in my last post, when I used the crystal before, I always had to wash and reapply it after about 12 hours. So maybe the first few days were just a fluke? Not sure, but my sheets were wet from the kind of night sweats I haven’t had since I was pregnant.

The plan for Day 4 was to do nothing to my hair (bun for the shower, then just brush it out) and shower/shave with the KMF shaving lotion. My hair was a mess, yes, but it was dry and tangly, not dirty, greasy, or smelly, so I saw no reason to change that plan to a baking soda wash. I would leave it alone, then when I brushed it after the shower I would try some of the coconut/almond/vit E oil blend I had on the ends.

You know how I have an almost-10-month-old? Did I mention she’s teething?

I never managed to find my way to the shower on Day 4. At some point in the day my still-tangled hair went into a bun, but that was the extent of my grooming for the day.

No, seriously. I didn’t brush my teeth, wash my face, reapply deodorant, nothing. Add some leaked breast milk to the stretched out nursing tank I was wearing, and I’m telling you, it’s a miracle my husband managed to keep his hands off me.

Day 5

I have an eye doctor appointment today, and my mom is coming with us so we can check out the mall and get Giant Baby some new clothes that she can wear for two weeks before she outgrows them.

I’m still a Yeti, but I also need to do something about my hair. (I try not to shave and wash my hair in the same shower because the hot water starts running out toward the end, and I hate feeling like I’m racing a clock.) My hair still looks dry, my scalp is still not greasy, but it also doesn’t smell clean.

I decide to wash my hair and shave just my pits, saving my legs for tomorrow. I have a theory that the crystal will work better if I stop being a Yeti.

Hair

I use the same routine and amounts of baking soda and apple cider vinegar as before. My hair feels clean and again looks really good as it’s drying. However, when it gets completely dry, I have a bunch of little flyaways everywhere and it looks messy, like I didn’t brush or comb it. But the bottom two-thirds of my hair looks fantastic. I wear a bandanna. Like I’m wearing in this pic:

Body

I still haven’t made any facial cleanser or moisturizer, so I use KMF olive oil soap on my face and body, and shave my armpits with KMF lime shaving cream.

The shaving cream works well, but it’s an adjustment for me because I usually use a foaming gel. My heritage is about 75% Eastern European, and we’re a hairy folk. I need shaving cream to really soften. I don’t think I can judge this until I use it on my legs.

I’m still liking the KMF honey calendula lotion. It feels lightweight, but it’s moisturizing enough to clear up the dry patches I had and keep my skin soft in the dry winter air here.

My face, however, is a dry, flaky mess. The honey calendula lotion feels soothing and clears up the flakes, but I obviously need to start taking better care of my face.

The crystal stings when I apply it to my just-shaved pits. This displeases me, and I’m not sure what to do about it. For a crystal to work well, it needs to be applied as quickly after your pits dry as possible, but I’d like to give my pits a little bit of time to recover from being shaved. Dilemma.

The deodorant holds up during a long afternoon of appointments and errand-running. I go to bed still un-smelly.

Day 6

I braided my hair before I went to sleep last night to try to cut down on the tangle factor, and it helped. This morning my scalp isn’t greasy (or dry) and it’s not smelly. I mean, it doesn’t smell clean, but it doesn’t necessarily smell bad either. Thanks to the braiding, I have this 80′s crimped look going on.

My body is super sweaty again and my pits reek. I think my body is flushing out toxins through my skin while I’m sleeping.

According to my “every other day” schedule, today is a shave my legs, no wash the hair day. I’m going to spend some time googling to see what sort of adjustments (add coconut oil? rinse with water on no wash days? more or less vinegar?) I need to make to the wash routine for the dryness in my hair.

I’m also determined to make my own facial cleanser and moisturizer today. While caring for a teething 10 month old and organizing two bathrooms and a hall closet.

 

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I’m a dirty hippie now

I’ve lost count of how many times in my life I’ve abandoned commercial grooming products like lotions and cleansers for more natural alternatives. I was never able to make a clean break and eventually ended up back on the Junk.

My last attempt, when I realized I was pregnant with Mini E, was the most successful. Since then, I’ve been cleaning the whole house exclusively with baking soda, vinegar, and steam. (OK, and a tiny bit of bleach in the toilets). But all of my “products” have slowly made their way back into my bathroom.

I’ve been wanting to change this for a while, and I’ve been seeing more and more talk about no ‘poo, natural living, homesteading, etc in my twitter stream. It’s really been resonating with me, so I made a point to do some google research over the weekend.

The more I read, the more excited I got. I also got really, really overwhelmed. Once you decide to get off the Junk, you realize just how much Junk you’re on. My eventual goal is to make all of our own everything, but it’s going to take a while to get there. In the meantime, we’re going to fill in the blanks with some store bought brands like Kiss My Face (KMF because I’m going to be typing it a lot.)

Here is my journey, probably in more detail than you’d care for, to get our family completely off of commercial grooming and cleaning products.

For reference, I didn’t have a terribly elaborate grooming routine before I got off the Junk anyway – I let my hair air dry, I rarely wore make-up. It was pretty much shower, body lotion, facial moisturizer, some sort of no-frizz stuff for my hair, deodorant, and done.

Day One

Hair  Since I still had some product (Garnier Smoothing Milk and Frizz-Ease) in my hair, I decided to start no ‘poo with some ‘poo. My thinking was that it takes chemicals to remove other chemicals. I washed and conditioned with Aussie Moisturizing. I combed my hair and let it air dry. It was very soft, fluffy, and flyaway. I was quite pleased not to have anywhere to go that day.

Body  I washed my face and body with KMF olive oil bar soap. We hadn’t yet made a store run for lotion, shaving cream, or chapstick so I decided to use the Mother’s Special Blend toning oil I got for my belly when I was pregnant as a body lotion. It’s a blend of coconut oil, almond oil, and vitamin E. It smelled good, dried quickly, and softened my skin. However, I have some dry patches near my wrist that stayed dry and itchy.

My face and lips were still pretty dry so I had a brief relapse with my moisturizer and chapstick.

I used a Naturally Fresh with aloe vera deodorant crystal that I still had hanging around from my last attempt to go Dirty Hippie. I’ve had good results from using crystals in the past, my only complaint is that it seemed to stop being as effective after about 12 hours. To avoid some funk, I would need to take my shirt off, lean over the sink, wash my pits, and reapply.

Day Two

Hair  I put my hair in a bun while I showered, then brushed it afterward. Before, I had a little squirt bottle with a solution of two parts water and one part detangler/conditioner, and I would squirt this on my hair to help control the flyaways and static and freshen the waves/curls. And also so I didn’t cry like a baby while I brushed out all the tangles.

I’m not gonna lie, of all the Junk, I was the most nervous about giving up my squirt bottle. But, I was pleasantly surprised to find I didn’t need it! The brush slid easily through my hair, which was hanging down in perfect waves. Until Mini E yanked on it a few times and it went back up into a bun.

Body  I shave on the days I don’t wash my hair, but we still hadn’t made the store trip and I was already basically a Yeti because I have a 10 month old. I decided one more day of being a Yeti was better than slathering chemicals on my legs and armpits, and other more sensitive areas.

Once again I used the KMF olive oil soap, toning oil as lotion, and my deodorant crystal. I noticed when applying the crystal this time that I hadn’t used it since my last shower… I never got stinky enough to have to do the wash-and-reapply step.

Day Three

We went to the store last night to pick up some natural products to use until we’re set up to make our own things. I purchased KMF lime shaving cream and honey calendula lotion, an aloe vera glycerin bar soap for hand washing, and two chapsticks.

Hair  All the links I found online seemed to start with a basic “recipe” of using about 1 tbsp baking soda and enough water to form a paste. The advice about apple cider vinegar varied a lot more and seemed to depend on whether or not your hair was “oily”. I really, really hate tangles and my hair tends to be soft and flyaway, so I decided to use slightly less than 1 tbsp of vinegar in a 20 oz cup of water.

I’m storing the baking soda, vinegar, and measuring spoons in the bathroom, and keeping a small tupperware dish and a cup in the shower. I put 1 tbsp of baking soda in the dish and 2 tsps of apple cider vinegar in the cup and took it in the shower with me. I wet my hair, then mixed some water with the baking soda. I used a little too much and it was more a thick liquid than a paste. I poured it on my head, concentrating on the roots. There was a small amount of paste in the bottom of the dish, so I rubbed that on my roots, like you would with shampoo. I left it on while I washed my face, then rinsed.

I filled the plastic cup with water and dipped the ends of my hair into it a few times, then poured it on my hair, concentrating on the ends. I left it on while I finished showering, then rinsed it out. I combed my hair with a wide toothed comb while still in the shower. My hair was soft and there were very few tangles.

I combed it again when I got out of the shower. I noticed immediately how much more cooperative it was. It just stayed wherever I put it. I combed it straight, then scrunched it with my fingers. I was going for those “sexy, just from the beach waves” the fashion magazines are always telling you about. And it totally worked. My hair looked fantastic, and it looked and felt clean. Oddly enough, it still smelled like the Aussie shampoo and conditioner I used two days before.

Body  I still don’t have it together enough to make the facial cleanser and moisturizer recipes I found, so I washed my face (and body) with the KMF olive oil soap, and used KMF honey calendula lotion on both my face and body. I felt weird using body lotion on my face (media conditioning that they need to be different products, maybe?) but it worked really well.

I used my deodorant crystal again. It’s working well and still only needs applied once per day.

Day Four

I woke up this morning with smelly armpits and tangly, dry hair that looks like shit.

 

 

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I don’t know how to write about parenting

I woke up at 3:45 this morning to have some time to myself. And to write. As I logged into my wordpress dashboard at 5 am and clicked “add new”, I heard the whimper through the baby monitor. This is what I get for wasting the last hour catching up on twitter, I thought as I headed to bed to nurse Mini E back to sleep.

I found that paragraph, dated January 12, in my drafts folder this morning. Today is the first chance I’ve had to try to finish that post. I don’t even remember what it was about.

And you know what, I don’t remember what this post was going to be about, either. Because the same thing happened this morning – I open up wordpress, and the cries start on the monitor. I drop what I’m doing to get back in bed and nurse Mini E back to sleep.

Attachment Parenting is hard.

I crossed out the attachment because I realized it was going to take this post in a direction I don’t want to go. Parenting, however your family chooses to do it, is hard. It’s also amazing, gratifying, rewarding, and I could come up with many more words to describe how wonderful it is, but it’s 5:30 am. I’m tired.

I hesitate to write too specifically about how we parent, because, well… I don’t know how to. I don’t want to be part of any of the “mommy wars”.

I don’t want what I write to make you feel judged/bad/wrong about how you parent, and I don’t want you to try to make me feel judged/bad/wrong about how I parent.

I remember in what felt like the worst of my no sleeping, no showering, living on granola bars, constantly nursing, does it really get better after the first 3 months, fuck this anxiety disorder times, I vented on (my now deleted) facebook about how hard it was.

The responses?

“That’s what you get for not getting her on a feeding and sleeping schedule. You’re her bitch now.”

“You don’t have to pick her up every single time she cries, you know.”

“You need to stop nursing her down to sleep.”

“You’d have more time if you would just stop using those cloth diapers.”

And so on.

I got my share of supportive, hang in there, and everyone does what works for their own family comments. They were outnumbered by the negative ones, though.

I’m vocal on twitter about being anti-Cry It Out, pro-breastfeeding anywhere, anytime, pro-extended breast feeding, and other issues. I don’t really write about it here, though. See, the thing is… *takes deep breath*

I do think Cry It Out is wrong. It makes me sad to think of a baby lying in a crib, scared and crying alone. Because I don’t believe they are learning to “self-soothe”. I believe they are crying because they need you and they don’t understand why you aren’t there.

I do think feeding schedules are wrong. It makes me sad to think of a baby crying in hunger and being denied food because someone decided babies only need to eat every 3 or 4 hours.

I don’t know how to talk about these things. I don’t want other mamas to feel the way I felt reading those facebook comments, but at the same time I can’t go on not writing about being a mama.

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